Being a mother is the hardest and most responsible job on the planet.
But being a single mother who does the work of two people all by herself is an act of a true hero.
And in the beginning it is especially difficult when you are not fully aware of all your strength and what you can achieve.
You are afraid that you will succeed in raising this little man alone.
But at some point you can see that a mother’s love for a child can move mountains.
You see that you are determined and powerful and that nothing and nobody can stand in your way when it comes to the happiness of your child.
If you are or have been raised by a single mother, you know exactly what I am talking about.
I’m just here to tell you that you can not give up when you feel tired or overwhelmed, because almost all single mothers have similar emotional issues, and here are 6 of them.
1. Finance and Career
Every loving and caring parent wants to do his best to care for his family. And single mothers are no exception.
The big difference here is that if you’re a single mother with no financial help from the other side, you’re the only provider for the family.
Of course, you want to give your child as much as possible.
But at the same time, you’re always torn between working overtime and being afraid that you’ll miss a lot of your child’s childhood because you’re pursuing your career to give him a better future.
One of the problems that every single mother literally faces is the fact that all parenting responsibilities are only on her back.
You are the one who is responsible for the education of another person, and there is no one who shares this burden with you.
You have no one to rely on.
Yes, you can get advice from people close to you, but at the end of the day, you’re the one who makes all the decisions.
You have to be both the good and the bad policeman, a strict parent and a friend, the mother and the father.
3. Guilt feelings
If you complete a relationship with no children involved, all you have to do is deal with your love sickness.
But what happens if you have to heal the broken heart of your child and explain to him that his father does not want to be part of his life and that he is not responsible for it?
Were you the one who finished things with your child’s father?
You knew it was the best thing you could do for your child, and you knew it had not deserved to be raised in such a toxic atmosphere.
But sometimes you can not help but wonder – did you make the right choice? Should you have tried more to be a responsible parent?
Did you keep your child from having a father in his life? Do you understand that you have done something that needed to be done or is it blaming you for leaving?
When you ask yourself these questions, just remember that it is so much better.
It is better for your child to have a healthy relationship with one of his parents than to grow up in a dysfunctional family.
4. Social life
Being a single mother is exhausting and rarely gives you time or energy for anything else in life.
But that does not mean that you have ceased to exist as a human being who is not just a mother. That does not mean that you do not want to talk and have friends.
Let me just say one thing to you – there is nothing wrong with that. You should never feel guilty for giving yourself a break from time to time.
I know that you are a full-time mother, but you will be happier if you relax a bit and your child will have a happier mother.
5. love life
Just as you as a human being have not ceased to exist since you became a mother, so you are still a woman with her emotional and sexual needs.
Sometimes you feel lonely and just want someone to hold your hand and tell you everything will be alright. You need intimacy and affection, and that’s natural.
But on the other hand, you know that it takes a strong man to win your heart, and you are worried about how your romantic relationships could affect your child.
Will it feel emotionally neglected? Will your potential partner be able to cope with your child?
6. If you are a single mother, there are times when you are proud of yourself because you have achieved everything on your own.6. uncertainty
And then there are times when you do not feel enough and wonder if you should have done something different.
Does your child miss having another parent?
Should you earn more money?
Are you spending enough time with him?
Are you a good example?
Or are you actually a toxic parent without even realizing it?
There are times when all your uncertainties and fears come to the surface. Times when you only need someone to tell you that you are doing things right.
And that’s why I’m here to give you the peace of mind you need to tell you that you’re amazing and let it crack in that educational matter.
Trust me, you are more than good enough and you are doing a great job, if only because you are doing your best.